Are you hiding yourself in your daydreams?

I’ve written before about how a conflict between the basic human needs for attachment and authenticity in our early childhood can potentially set the stage for the development of maladaptive daydreaming disorder. Throughout our lives, we need to feel attached to the people we care about; we need to feel we belong somewhere; we needContinue reading “Are you hiding yourself in your daydreams?”

The first scientifically validated treatment programme for maladaptive daydreaming disorder

On 13 January 2023, the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology published an article by Oren Herscu, Eli Somer, Asaf Federman and Nirit Soffer-Dudek entitled “Mindfulness meditation and self-monitoring reduced maladaptive daydreaming symptoms: a randomized controlled trial of a brief self-guided web-based program”. This is significant for maladaptive daydreamers because it’s the first randomised controlledContinue reading “The first scientifically validated treatment programme for maladaptive daydreaming disorder”

Can you drive safely if you have maladaptive daydreaming disorder?

If you’re a daydreamer, you’ll know just how absorbed you can get in your daydreams. When you’re daydreaming, it’s as if time stands still and, for a while, the outside world doesn’t exist. If you have maladaptive daydreaming disorder, you might be wondering whether it’s safe for you to drive. Is there a risk youContinue reading “Can you drive safely if you have maladaptive daydreaming disorder?”

Are you making your daydreaming maladaptive when it doesn’t have to be?

Maladaptive daydreaming disorder is real. If your daydreaming is so out of control that you can’t function – can’t maintain real-life relationships, can’t study or succeed in your career – then you have a very real problem and this post is in no way meant to trivialise that. But for some people, the problem isn’tContinue reading “Are you making your daydreaming maladaptive when it doesn’t have to be?”

Should you turn your daydreams into a novel? In my case, absolutely not

I think some of the best novelists are probably immersive daydreamers. Crafting intricate stories in our heads comes naturally to us. It wouldn’t be hard to write them down. But being a great novelist takes more than just creating a compelling story in your own mind. You have to put that story into words soContinue reading “Should you turn your daydreams into a novel? In my case, absolutely not”

Reflections on 2022

I am so proud of myself! It’s the end of 2022, and I’ve published a blog post every week for the entire year. If you’re a daydreamer, you’ll appreciate just what an achievement that is. It’s hard for us to set a meaningful real-life goal and stick to it – and it’s even harder whenContinue reading “Reflections on 2022”

How to resist the urge to daydream

Whether you’re a maladaptive daydreamer who wants to stop or cut down on your daydreaming, or an immersive daydreamer who needs to push the daydreaming aside for a couple of hours while you attend to real life, we all have times when we really want to daydream but shouldn’t. So what do you do whenContinue reading “How to resist the urge to daydream”

How to feel better about being a daydreamer

Being an immersive daydreamer means you have a creative gift that can enhance your life in many different ways. But having maladaptive daydreaming disorder is a curse that makes living real life extremely difficult. The daydreaming is the same in each case; the difference is in how we use it and the meanings we attachContinue reading “How to feel better about being a daydreamer”

Quitting maladaptive daydreaming – how to cope with a relapse

You’ve realised your daydreaming is out of control and preventing you from living in the real world. You’ve made the decision to stop. You’re certain this is the right thing to do. You’ve managed not to daydream for a few hours or days, and you’re proud of your progress. And then suddenly something happens, theContinue reading “Quitting maladaptive daydreaming – how to cope with a relapse”

Daydreaming isn’t manifesting, but daydreamers can learn to manifest

Manifesting is intentionally training your brain and your nervous system to believe in something that hasn’t happened yet. Mel Robbins I absolutely love the Mel Robbins podcast. Listening to Mel is just like having a best friend in the room with you; it feels like a genuine, deep, compassionate conversation, and we could all doContinue reading “Daydreaming isn’t manifesting, but daydreamers can learn to manifest”