Should I be concerned about my child’s daydreaming?

My earliest memories of daydreaming are from when I was four years old, but I think I’ve always been a daydreamer. I believe that all immersive and maladaptive daydreamers are born immersive daydreamers. In the beginning, our daydreaming isn’t harmful. But my daydreaming first became maladaptive when I was eight years old, so it’s definitelyContinue reading “Should I be concerned about my child’s daydreaming?”

Don’t fight the wrong battle

As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself. Bessel A. van der Kolk Bessel van der Kolk’s words are particularly relevant to daydreamers. For all the harm that maladaptive daydreaming can do, it’s important to remember that all maladaptive daydreamers were born immersive daydreamers. Our daydreaming isContinue reading “Don’t fight the wrong battle”

Is it safe to just stop daydreaming?

If maladaptive daydreaming is stopping you from living your real life, you might be thinking that the solution is to stop daydreaming. But it’s very rarely that simple. For a start, you can’t change the way your brain’s wired just by wishing it to be different. If you have maladaptive daydreaming disorder, you were bornContinue reading “Is it safe to just stop daydreaming?”

The connection between daydreaming and music

This is a speculative post. I want to say that up front, because I’m unusual among daydreamers: music isn’t, and never has been, part of my daydreaming experience. In fact, I’ve often used music to pull me out of a daydream. When I need to stop daydreaming and focus on real life, listening to musicContinue reading “The connection between daydreaming and music”

Nine other reasons to get your maladaptive daydreaming under control

If you’re struggling with maladaptive daydreaming disorder, you already know how much time your daydreaming is stealing from you. It’s not unusual for maladaptive daydreamers to spend upwards of four hours a day lost in fantasy. That’s more than a whole day every week, or two months out of every year. If you’re a maladaptiveContinue reading “Nine other reasons to get your maladaptive daydreaming under control”

So you’ve just found out there’s a name for this: now what?

Coming across the term maladaptive daydreaming disorder for the first time can be a light-bulb moment. Suddenly everything falls into place. You have a name for this thing you’ve been doing all your life, and, more importantly, you now know that other people do it too. But as the initial excitement subsides, you’re likely toContinue reading “So you’ve just found out there’s a name for this: now what?”

Ten myths about maladaptive daydreaming that could be increasing your suffering

Having maladaptive daydreaming disorder is tough. But it’s often made harder by the misinformation that surrounds what it still a new and little-known mental-health condition. The following are just some of the unhelpful myths about immersive and maladaptive daydreaming that could be causing you unnecessary anxiety. 1. All fantastical daydreaming is maladaptive daydreaming Maladaptive daydreamingContinue reading “Ten myths about maladaptive daydreaming that could be increasing your suffering”

Three reasons why willpower alone is not enough to cure maladaptive daydreaming disorder

If you’re struggling with maladaptive daydreaming disorder, at some point you’ve probably tried to stop daydreaming. Perhaps someone has told you “it’s only a daydream; you can just stop thinking about it”. Or perhaps you’ve said something like that to yourself. But if you’ve tried to stop daydreaming, you’ll know it isn’t that simple. AndContinue reading “Three reasons why willpower alone is not enough to cure maladaptive daydreaming disorder”

7 quick ways to reduce maladaptive daydreaming right now

You cannot cure maladaptive daydreaming disorder overnight. Your daydreaming got out of control over months or years of using it to escape from real life. Maladaptive daydreaming takes time to get thoroughly embedded in your brain, and it takes a significant amount of time and effort to regain control. You can’t just decide to getContinue reading “7 quick ways to reduce maladaptive daydreaming right now”

When does maladaptive daydreaming begin?

When you come across the term maladaptive daydreaming disorder for the first time and suddenly realise you aren’t alone and you’re not the only crazy person who has a whole fantasy life in their head, it’s natural to wonder why your brain is wired this way. When did it start? What caused it? And wasContinue reading “When does maladaptive daydreaming begin?”