Daydreaming isn’t manifesting, but daydreamers can learn to manifest

Manifesting is intentionally training your brain and your nervous system to believe in something that hasn’t happened yet. Mel Robbins I absolutely love the Mel Robbins podcast. Listening to Mel is just like having a best friend in the room with you; it feels like a genuine, deep, compassionate conversation, and we could all doContinue reading “Daydreaming isn’t manifesting, but daydreamers can learn to manifest”

Different styles of daydreaming – it’s not all about the paracosm

Immersive daydreaming is often described as vivid fantastical daydreaming that involves a detailed imaginary world, a complex plot and a cast of lifelike characters. Even if your daydreams are fairly realistic, involving people you actually know, all of those elements are probably there; you’re just drawing heavily on your real life for inspiration. Immersive daydreamingContinue reading “Different styles of daydreaming – it’s not all about the paracosm”

Ending a daydream relationship

It’s common to daydream about romantic relationships. And it’s possible to fall deeply in love with someone you’re only dating in your imagination. In fact, it’s possible to fall in love with someone who doesn’t even exist. Sometimes daydream relationships can endure for years and be a source of comfort and inspiration. But sometimes youContinue reading “Ending a daydream relationship”

Are many novelists immersive daydreamers?

When I was a teenager, I assumed that one day I would be a famous novelist. It seemed obvious to me that since I spent so much of my time crafting these detailed stories in my head, I would eventually build my career around it. Many daydreamers feel the same way. As our plots becomeContinue reading “Are many novelists immersive daydreamers?”

Is immersive daydreaming a form of play, and why does that matter?

When we have insufficient play in our life as adults, we suffer tremendously. We get emotionally exhausted. Gordon Neufeld This post was inspired by an episode of the Family 360 podcast with Dr Gordon Neufeld. Dr Neufeld is a clinical psychologist specialising in child development, and he’s studied the importance of play in emotional developmentContinue reading “Is immersive daydreaming a form of play, and why does that matter?”

Daydreaming is like a memory in present tense

I’ve sometimes been asked what it feels like to immersively daydream. And although, to me, it comes as naturally as breathing, it’s surprisingly hard to explain to someone who’s never experienced it. I see, hear, and feel every detail, but I’m not hallucinating. I know my daydreams aren’t real, and yet they’re real to me.Continue reading “Daydreaming is like a memory in present tense”

How being an immersive daydreamer saved my life

10 September is World Suicide Prevention Day. That’s something that’s very close to my heart now. Less than a year ago, I made the decision to end my life. But my daydreaming saved me. And I finally feel ready to write about how that happened. It was October 2021, and I was heading for burnout.Continue reading “How being an immersive daydreamer saved my life”

Is immersive daydreaming a form of self-hypnosis?

When I was a child, my favourite place to daydream was in the garden at the back of our house. I used to bounce a ball off the back wall of the house over and over again. Throw, bounce, catch, throw, bounce, catch. I could go on like that for hours; it helped me toContinue reading “Is immersive daydreaming a form of self-hypnosis?”

Why daydreamers find it hard to step out of their comfort zone, and why we need to

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone” Neale Donald Walsch Our biggest successes and most worthwhile achievements come from taking on challenges that stretch us or that, at least to begin with, make us uncomfortable. There’s nothing wrong with spending much of your time in your comfort zone, but if you never pushContinue reading “Why daydreamers find it hard to step out of their comfort zone, and why we need to”

Why you can’t daydream when you need it most

Many of us, regardless of whether we’re immersive or maladaptive daydreamers, use daydreaming as a way to escape from painful emotions. When we feel overwhelmed, we check out of real life in favour of our daydream world, where everything is perfect and under our control. And used in moderation, this is no bad thing. DaydreamingContinue reading “Why you can’t daydream when you need it most”