Healing my inner child – a daydreaming experiment

In the last few weeks, I’ve realised that many of my negative thoughts and emotions come to me in the voice of a traumatised yet defiant seven-year-old stamping her foot and shouting that life isn’t fair. I’ve been asking myself why my wounded inner child shows up as a seven-year-old, and I think it’s becauseContinue reading “Healing my inner child – a daydreaming experiment”

3 simple hacks to turn your daydreaming into a healthy habit

For most of us, excessive daydreaming started out as a coping mechanism. A coping mechanism is any strategy our mind uses to protect us from psychological harm. In the beginning we were doing what we needed to do to protect ourselves. Excessive daydreaming often begins in childhood, when many of the psychological stressors we wereContinue reading “3 simple hacks to turn your daydreaming into a healthy habit”

Learning to make choices and trust your intuition

Navigating the complexities of life involves making decisions. Some decisions can have profound consequences for the way life unfolds, so it’s natural to be afraid of making the wrong choice. We can make choices in a logical, left-brained way, where we carefully list the pros and cons of each option, look at the likely consequences,Continue reading “Learning to make choices and trust your intuition”

Micro-daydreaming as a way to manage your emotional state

One of the differences between being an immersive daydreamer and being a maladaptive daydreamer is that if you’re an immersive daydreamer, you can control your daydreaming, rather than letting it control you. You can make your daydreaming work for you so that it becomes an asset that helps you get ahead in your real life.Continue reading “Micro-daydreaming as a way to manage your emotional state”

What your daydreams can tell you about what’s missing in your life

Maladaptive daydreaming often has its roots in a need to escape. Something in real life is too painful to deal with, or is outside our control, so we retreat into a fantasy life to escape from it. But for many immersive and maladaptive daydreamers, it can also work the other way round. Instead of beingContinue reading “What your daydreams can tell you about what’s missing in your life”

Daydreaming, manifesting and the law of attraction

The basic idea behind manifesting and the law of attraction is that if you spend enough time thinking about something, you will subconsciously act in ways that make that thing more likely to happen. But I’m sure I’m not the only daydreamer who has spent months – years sometimes – daydreaming that something would happenContinue reading “Daydreaming, manifesting and the law of attraction”

Using your daydreaming to resolve your real-life conflicts

We daydreamers tend to be impulsive. In our daydreams, we’re used to getting exactly what we want the moment we want it, which does little to develop our patience. Also, we can control the outcome of every situation, so we don’t automatically think through the possible consequences of something not going to plan. In ourContinue reading “Using your daydreaming to resolve your real-life conflicts”

Daydreaming and mindfulness as ways to regulate our thoughts

Maladaptive daydreaming often starts as a way to escape an unpleasant reality. But for those immersive daydreamers who are lucky enough never to have become addicted to their daydreams, and for maladaptive daydreamers who struggle to break the addiction even when they no longer need to escape real life, it may be worth looking atContinue reading “Daydreaming and mindfulness as ways to regulate our thoughts”