Is morning daydreaming screwing up your day?

Do you have an urge to daydream the minute you wake up in the morning? I do. For years, the snooze button worked overtime. I had to have a (not-so) quick check-in with my paras before I could get out of bed. Research suggests I’m not alone. The MDS-16, the screening questionnaire used to assessContinue reading “Is morning daydreaming screwing up your day?”

Is immersive daydreaming a form of play, and why does that matter?

When we have insufficient play in our life as adults, we suffer tremendously. We get emotionally exhausted. Gordon Neufeld This post was inspired by an episode of the Family 360 podcast with Dr Gordon Neufeld. Dr Neufeld is a clinical psychologist specialising in child development, and he’s studied the importance of play in emotional developmentContinue reading “Is immersive daydreaming a form of play, and why does that matter?”

How being an immersive daydreamer saved my life

10 September is World Suicide Prevention Day. That’s something that’s very close to my heart now. Less than a year ago, I made the decision to end my life. But my daydreaming saved me. And I finally feel ready to write about how that happened. It was October 2021, and I was heading for burnout.Continue reading “How being an immersive daydreamer saved my life”

Don’t fight the wrong battle

As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself. Bessel A. van der Kolk Bessel van der Kolk’s words are particularly relevant to daydreamers. For all the harm that maladaptive daydreaming can do, it’s important to remember that all maladaptive daydreamers were born immersive daydreamers. Our daydreaming isContinue reading “Don’t fight the wrong battle”

Is it safe to just stop daydreaming?

If maladaptive daydreaming is stopping you from living your real life, you might be thinking that the solution is to stop daydreaming. But it’s very rarely that simple. For a start, you can’t change the way your brain’s wired just by wishing it to be different. If you have maladaptive daydreaming disorder, you were bornContinue reading “Is it safe to just stop daydreaming?”

Why daydreamers find it hard to step out of their comfort zone, and why we need to

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone” Neale Donald Walsch Our biggest successes and most worthwhile achievements come from taking on challenges that stretch us or that, at least to begin with, make us uncomfortable. There’s nothing wrong with spending much of your time in your comfort zone, but if you never pushContinue reading “Why daydreamers find it hard to step out of their comfort zone, and why we need to”

Why you can’t daydream when you need it most

Many of us, regardless of whether we’re immersive or maladaptive daydreamers, use daydreaming as a way to escape from painful emotions. When we feel overwhelmed, we check out of real life in favour of our daydream world, where everything is perfect and under our control. And used in moderation, this is no bad thing. DaydreamingContinue reading “Why you can’t daydream when you need it most”

Ten myths about maladaptive daydreaming that could be increasing your suffering

Having maladaptive daydreaming disorder is tough. But it’s often made harder by the misinformation that surrounds what it still a new and little-known mental-health condition. The following are just some of the unhelpful myths about immersive and maladaptive daydreaming that could be causing you unnecessary anxiety. 1. All fantastical daydreaming is maladaptive daydreaming Maladaptive daydreamingContinue reading “Ten myths about maladaptive daydreaming that could be increasing your suffering”

Does your name matter? And why I felt I had to change mine.

When I was a child, I used to daydream in third person. Back then, I didn’t like myself much, and I’ve often wondered whether I felt I didn’t deserve to be in my daydreams. In both real-life and the daydream world, I was an observer, not a participant. But even then, my daydreams always includedContinue reading “Does your name matter? And why I felt I had to change mine.”

The negative emotions your daydreaming is trying to protect you from

There are some experiences and emotions that immersive and maladaptive daydreamers don’t experience as often as most people, if at all. Sometimes this is a good thing – it’s great to have a range of tools for dealing with negative emotions. But it can also be damaging. We feel emotions for a reason, and ifContinue reading “The negative emotions your daydreaming is trying to protect you from”