Does your name matter? And why I felt I had to change mine.

When I was a child, I used to daydream in third person. Back then, I didn’t like myself much, and I’ve often wondered whether I felt I didn’t deserve to be in my daydreams. In both real-life and the daydream world, I was an observer, not a participant. But even then, my daydreams always includedContinue reading “Does your name matter? And why I felt I had to change mine.”

How to be as awesome in real life as you are in your daydreams

I’ve written before about why it can be hard for daydreamers to set goals. But despite that, we all have things we want to achieve, whether that’s getting a promotion, buying a bigger house or just finding the courage to join the local choir. And the good news is that you can use the talentsContinue reading “How to be as awesome in real life as you are in your daydreams”

How to live an abundant life as a daydreamer

Does being a daydreamer make it easier or harder to live a real life filled with abundance? What does it mean to live an abundant life? And how can we use our daydreams to help us feel more abundant in all areas of our lives? Let’s begin by considering what we mean by abundance. ForContinue reading “How to live an abundant life as a daydreamer”

Daydreaming, manifesting and the law of attraction

The basic idea behind manifesting and the law of attraction is that if you spend enough time thinking about something, you will subconsciously act in ways that make that thing more likely to happen. But I’m sure I’m not the only daydreamer who has spent months – years sometimes – daydreaming that something would happenContinue reading “Daydreaming, manifesting and the law of attraction”

Believe in yourself, and everything else will fall into place

My son celebrated his tenth birthday last week, which prompted me to pause and reflect on the way he came into the world. I’d always liked the idea of a water birth, but when I started to research it in more detail I realised that my options for pain relief would be quite limited. IContinue reading “Believe in yourself, and everything else will fall into place”

What do you really want from life?

You can’t organise a recovery around a vacuum Patricia Deegan Patricia Deegan wasn’t talking about Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder (MaDD) in this quote, but I think her words apply to anyone who is struggling with a mental health problem and to anyone who is using an addictive behaviour to escape the pain and stress of day-to-dayContinue reading “What do you really want from life?”

Why we find it hard to set real-life goals

A common problem faced by maladaptive daydreamers, and to a certain extent by immersive daydreamers as well, is that we feel we aren’t reaching our full potential in real life. It’s hard to find the motivation to work on the things that are important to us, and we find it hard to sustain our effortsContinue reading “Why we find it hard to set real-life goals”

How to finally achieve your goals in 2021

Let’s face it – 2020 didn’t go the way any of us planned. And all the madness in the world hit some daydreamers hard. Many of us use daydreaming as a coping mechanism, as a means of escaping from real life when things get difficult, and for many of us 2020 was difficult in allContinue reading “How to finally achieve your goals in 2021”

Using your daydreaming to help you with your real-life ambitions

One of the questions I often ask when I’m coaching someone is “what resources do you have?” When we want to achieve something, it’s useful to think about what we already have that can help us get closer to what we want. Resources in this context can mean all sorts of things. It could meanContinue reading “Using your daydreaming to help you with your real-life ambitions”

Five tips to maintain healthy daydream habits

I want to begin this article by saying that everyone’s experience of daydreaming is different. And for some maladaptive daydreamers it can be impossible to maintain healthy daydreaming habits without support. If your daydreaming is having a significant negative impact on your life, you might benefit from seeing a counsellor or other therapist. But forContinue reading “Five tips to maintain healthy daydream habits”