Don’t fight the wrong battle

As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself. Bessel A. van der Kolk Bessel van der Kolk’s words are particularly relevant to daydreamers. For all the harm that maladaptive daydreaming can do, it’s important to remember that all maladaptive daydreamers were born immersive daydreamers. Our daydreaming isContinue reading “Don’t fight the wrong battle”

Ten myths about maladaptive daydreaming that could be increasing your suffering

Having maladaptive daydreaming disorder is tough. But it’s often made harder by the misinformation that surrounds what it still a new and little-known mental-health condition. The following are just some of the unhelpful myths about immersive and maladaptive daydreaming that could be causing you unnecessary anxiety. 1. All fantastical daydreaming is maladaptive daydreaming Maladaptive daydreamingContinue reading “Ten myths about maladaptive daydreaming that could be increasing your suffering”

Three ways to overcome the shame you feel about your daydreaming

Maladaptive daydreaming disorder was first described in 2002. But even 20 years later, awareness of the condition among mental health professionals and the general public remains low. One of the reasons for this is that most daydreamers are very reluctant to open up to friends and family about their daydreaming due to a deeply rootedContinue reading “Three ways to overcome the shame you feel about your daydreaming”

Guilt and shame

Guilt and shame are two emotions that are familiar to many of us, but if you’ve been feeling guilty or ashamed of your daydreaming, it’s worth considering the difference between them and what you can do to reduce the suffering they all-too-often cause.  Guilt We feel guilt when we’ve behaved in a way that goesContinue reading “Guilt and shame”

Three ways maladaptive daydreaming makes you feel bad about yourself

Many maladaptive daydreamers don’t like themselves very much, and when you don’t like or respect yourself, you tend to act in ways that reinforce the idea that you’re a bad person. Although I don’t believe that immersive daydreaming is, in itself, a bad thing, I do think that if your daydreaming is more on theContinue reading “Three ways maladaptive daydreaming makes you feel bad about yourself”

Why you shouldn’t be ashamed of your daydreaming

Everyone experiences shame. It’s that little voice in your head that tells you that you aren’t good enough, or that you don’t deserve to be successful, or that nobody loves you. And for a lot of maladaptive daydreamers, it’s the voice that says that daydreaming makes you a bad person or is a sign thatContinue reading “Why you shouldn’t be ashamed of your daydreaming”

How to finally achieve your goals in 2021

Let’s face it – 2020 didn’t go the way any of us planned. And all the madness in the world hit some daydreamers hard. Many of us use daydreaming as a coping mechanism, as a means of escaping from real life when things get difficult, and for many of us 2020 was difficult in allContinue reading “How to finally achieve your goals in 2021”

Are your beliefs about your daydreaming limiting your life?

We all have beliefs about ourselves and the way we act. Some of these beliefs empower us, others hold us back. We can form beliefs at any time, but many of the ones that shape our lives were formed in childhood, when our understanding and experience of the world was very different from what itContinue reading “Are your beliefs about your daydreaming limiting your life?”

The factors that may be trapping you in your daydreams

Any habit, including daydreaming, can be beneficial if it enhances other aspects of your life, but can be negative if it takes over and stops you from doing other things. If your daydreaming is threatening to get out of control, you might be considering trying to reduce it. If that’s the case, it’s helpful toContinue reading “The factors that may be trapping you in your daydreams”

Getting to know your inner champion

Regardless of our daydreaming style, we all have an inner critic. It’s that voice in our heads that tells us we aren’t good enough, or we aren’t clever enough, or we aren’t worthy enough, thereby sabotaging our attempts to move forward in life. Odd though it may sound, our inner critic is trying to keepContinue reading “Getting to know your inner champion”