Nine other reasons to get your maladaptive daydreaming under control

If you’re struggling with maladaptive daydreaming disorder, you already know how much time your daydreaming is stealing from you. It’s not unusual for maladaptive daydreamers to spend upwards of four hours a day lost in fantasy. That’s more than a whole day every week, or two months out of every year. If you’re a maladaptiveContinue reading “Nine other reasons to get your maladaptive daydreaming under control”

Immersive daydreaming and flow – distinctions and similarities

Professor Eli Somer describes immersive and maladaptive daydreaming as states of dissociative absorption. Let’s break down what that means. Absorption is the process of becoming absorbed, focussing or concentrating intently on one thing and ignoring any distractions. Dissociation means a disconnection or separation. When we become dissociated, we become detached from reality and lose ourContinue reading “Immersive daydreaming and flow – distinctions and similarities”

Acknowledging the reality of your daydreams

It’s very easy to dismiss our daydreams as pure fantasy, and to draw a very firm distinction between the reality of our real life and the fiction of our daydream world. But it’s worth remembering that even though your daydream world only exists in your head, there are aspects of your daydreaming that reflect whoContinue reading “Acknowledging the reality of your daydreams”

3 simple hacks to turn your daydreaming into a healthy habit

For most of us, excessive daydreaming started out as a coping mechanism. A coping mechanism is any strategy our mind uses to protect us from psychological harm. In the beginning we were doing what we needed to do to protect ourselves. Excessive daydreaming often begins in childhood, when many of the psychological stressors we wereContinue reading “3 simple hacks to turn your daydreaming into a healthy habit”

How to be as awesome in real life as you are in your daydreams

I’ve written before about why it can be hard for daydreamers to set goals. But despite that, we all have things we want to achieve, whether that’s getting a promotion, buying a bigger house or just finding the courage to join the local choir. And the good news is that you can use the talentsContinue reading “How to be as awesome in real life as you are in your daydreams”

Three ways maladaptive daydreaming makes you feel bad about yourself

Many maladaptive daydreamers don’t like themselves very much, and when you don’t like or respect yourself, you tend to act in ways that reinforce the idea that you’re a bad person. Although I don’t believe that immersive daydreaming is, in itself, a bad thing, I do think that if your daydreaming is more on theContinue reading “Three ways maladaptive daydreaming makes you feel bad about yourself”

How to live an abundant life as a daydreamer

Does being a daydreamer make it easier or harder to live a real life filled with abundance? What does it mean to live an abundant life? And how can we use our daydreams to help us feel more abundant in all areas of our lives? Let’s begin by considering what we mean by abundance. ForContinue reading “How to live an abundant life as a daydreamer”

Taking responsibility for your daydreaming

You were born a daydreamer. It’s the way your mind works, and that ability you have to create a parallel universe filled with interesting people and experiences is something you will never lose. But if you’re a maladaptive daydreamer, you’re probably very aware of the negative effects that daydreaming can have on your life, andContinue reading “Taking responsibility for your daydreaming”

Believe in yourself, and everything else will fall into place

My son celebrated his tenth birthday last week, which prompted me to pause and reflect on the way he came into the world. I’d always liked the idea of a water birth, but when I started to research it in more detail I realised that my options for pain relief would be quite limited. IContinue reading “Believe in yourself, and everything else will fall into place”