Are there any medications that help with maladaptive daydreaming?

It’s a tempting thought isn’t it? If you’re suffering from maladaptive daydreaming disorder, you probably have days when you wish you could just take a pill and make it all go away. After all, there are pills for other mental health conditions, such as anxiety and depression, so why not maladaptive daydreaming? Unfortunately, there’s veryContinue reading “Are there any medications that help with maladaptive daydreaming?”

Maladaptive daydreaming: an addiction or an unhealthy coping mechanism?

Maladaptive daydreaming disorder has been described variously as a behavioural addiction, an unhealthy coping mechanism or a symptom of an underlying disorder. For your daydreaming to be considered maladaptive it must either cause significant distress or impair social, academic, occupational or other important areas of functioning. So, maladaptive daydreaming is harmful by definition (if yourContinue reading “Maladaptive daydreaming: an addiction or an unhealthy coping mechanism?”

Should I be concerned about my child’s daydreaming?

My earliest memories of daydreaming are from when I was four years old, but I think I’ve always been a daydreamer. I believe that all immersive and maladaptive daydreamers are born immersive daydreamers. In the beginning, our daydreaming isn’t harmful. But my daydreaming first became maladaptive when I was eight years old, so it’s definitelyContinue reading “Should I be concerned about my child’s daydreaming?”

Don’t fight the wrong battle

As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself. Bessel A. van der Kolk Bessel van der Kolk’s words are particularly relevant to daydreamers. For all the harm that maladaptive daydreaming can do, it’s important to remember that all maladaptive daydreamers were born immersive daydreamers. Our daydreaming isContinue reading “Don’t fight the wrong battle”

Is it safe to just stop daydreaming?

If maladaptive daydreaming is stopping you from living your real life, you might be thinking that the solution is to stop daydreaming. But it’s very rarely that simple. For a start, you can’t change the way your brain’s wired just by wishing it to be different. If you have maladaptive daydreaming disorder, you were bornContinue reading “Is it safe to just stop daydreaming?”

So you’ve just found out there’s a name for this: now what?

Coming across the term maladaptive daydreaming disorder for the first time can be a light-bulb moment. Suddenly everything falls into place. You have a name for this thing you’ve been doing all your life, and, more importantly, you now know that other people do it too. But as the initial excitement subsides, you’re likely toContinue reading “So you’ve just found out there’s a name for this: now what?”

When does maladaptive daydreaming begin?

When you come across the term maladaptive daydreaming disorder for the first time and suddenly realise you aren’t alone and you’re not the only crazy person who has a whole fantasy life in their head, it’s natural to wonder why your brain is wired this way. When did it start? What caused it? And wasContinue reading “When does maladaptive daydreaming begin?”

Why daydreaming is bad for our emotional intelligence

I struggle to feel emotions physically. My mind will tell me I’m feeling joy or frustration or disappointment, but it’s difficult for me to connect that emotion to physical sensations in my body. I don’t experience anger as a rush of heat or energy, I don’t experience fear as a tightness in my stomach, IContinue reading “Why daydreaming is bad for our emotional intelligence”

When coming back to reality is painful

There are several reasons we might feel bad about daydreaming, but a common one is that when we come back to reality we confront the heartbreaking fact that all the wonderful things that just happened in the daydream world aren’t real. That realisation – that real life is less fulfilling than fantasy – is painful.Continue reading “When coming back to reality is painful”

Negative daydreams, part 1: why do we daydream about upsetting things?

Although many of us have difficulty limiting the amount of time we spend daydreaming, most of us have at least some control over what we daydream about. Our daydreams are so vivid that they can generate real and intense emotional responses. So why is it that we sometimes daydream upsetting scenes that cause us veryContinue reading “Negative daydreams, part 1: why do we daydream about upsetting things?”