When does maladaptive daydreaming begin?

When you come across the term maladaptive daydreaming disorder for the first time and suddenly realise you aren’t alone and you’re not the only crazy person who has a whole fantasy life in their head, it’s natural to wonder why your brain is wired this way. When did it start? What caused it? And wasContinue reading “When does maladaptive daydreaming begin?”

Why daydreaming is bad for our emotional intelligence

I struggle to feel emotions physically. My mind will tell me I’m feeling joy or frustration or disappointment, but it’s difficult for me to connect that emotion to physical sensations in my body. I don’t experience anger as a rush of heat or energy, I don’t experience fear as a tightness in my stomach, IContinue reading “Why daydreaming is bad for our emotional intelligence”

When coming back to reality is painful

There are several reasons we might feel bad about daydreaming, but a common one is that when we come back to reality we confront the heartbreaking fact that all the wonderful things that just happened in the daydream world aren’t real. That realisation – that real life is less fulfilling than fantasy – is painful.Continue reading “When coming back to reality is painful”

Negative daydreams, part 1: why do we daydream about upsetting things?

Although many of us have difficulty limiting the amount of time we spend daydreaming, most of us have at least some control over what we daydream about. Our daydreams are so vivid that they can generate real and intense emotional responses. So why is it that we sometimes daydream upsetting scenes that cause us veryContinue reading “Negative daydreams, part 1: why do we daydream about upsetting things?”

3 simple hacks to turn your daydreaming into a healthy habit

For most of us, excessive daydreaming started out as a coping mechanism. A coping mechanism is any strategy our mind uses to protect us from psychological harm. In the beginning we were doing what we needed to do to protect ourselves. Excessive daydreaming often begins in childhood, when many of the psychological stressors we wereContinue reading “3 simple hacks to turn your daydreaming into a healthy habit”

Are daydreamers more prone to burnout and mental exhaustion?

Are daydreamers more prone to burnout and mental exhaustion? That’s a question I’ve been asking myself over the last few weeks. I suspect I’ve been suffering from burnout for the last six months or so, but I’ve been blaming pressure of work, the difficulties of balancing work and family life during the pandemic, uncertainty aboutContinue reading “Are daydreamers more prone to burnout and mental exhaustion?”

Daydreaming triggers

Most of us have certain triggers that will throw us straight into a daydream without giving us time to decide whether we want to or not. If you want to have more control over your daydreams, or you want to cut down on the amount of time you spend daydreaming, you might be wondering whetherContinue reading “Daydreaming triggers”

Micro-daydreaming as a way to manage your emotional state

One of the differences between being an immersive daydreamer and being a maladaptive daydreamer is that if you’re an immersive daydreamer, you can control your daydreaming, rather than letting it control you. You can make your daydreaming work for you so that it becomes an asset that helps you get ahead in your real life.Continue reading “Micro-daydreaming as a way to manage your emotional state”

Three ways maladaptive daydreaming makes you feel bad about yourself

Many maladaptive daydreamers don’t like themselves very much, and when you don’t like or respect yourself, you tend to act in ways that reinforce the idea that you’re a bad person. Although I don’t believe that immersive daydreaming is, in itself, a bad thing, I do think that if your daydreaming is more on theContinue reading “Three ways maladaptive daydreaming makes you feel bad about yourself”

Daydreaming as an antidote to overthinking – why you shouldn’t worry about not worrying

One of the fascinating things about being an immersive daydreamer is how my daydreaming affects the way I respond to real-world situations. For example, I worry a lot less than most normative daydreamers I know. I think everyone, regardless of their daydreaming style, worries about a whole range of different things, but I think theContinue reading “Daydreaming as an antidote to overthinking – why you shouldn’t worry about not worrying”