Ten myths about maladaptive daydreaming that could be increasing your suffering

Having maladaptive daydreaming disorder is tough. But it’s often made harder by the misinformation that surrounds what it still a new and little-known mental-health condition. The following are just some of the unhelpful myths about immersive and maladaptive daydreaming that could be causing you unnecessary anxiety. 1. All fantastical daydreaming is maladaptive daydreaming Maladaptive daydreamingContinue reading “Ten myths about maladaptive daydreaming that could be increasing your suffering”

Does your name matter? And why I felt I had to change mine.

When I was a child, I used to daydream in third person. Back then, I didn’t like myself much, and I’ve often wondered whether I felt I didn’t deserve to be in my daydreams. In both real-life and the daydream world, I was an observer, not a participant. But even then, my daydreams always includedContinue reading “Does your name matter? And why I felt I had to change mine.”

Acknowledging the reality of your daydreams

It’s very easy to dismiss our daydreams as pure fantasy, and to draw a very firm distinction between the reality of our real life and the fiction of our daydream world. But it’s worth remembering that even though your daydream world only exists in your head, there are aspects of your daydreaming that reflect whoContinue reading “Acknowledging the reality of your daydreams”

The beginning of chapter two

It’s been a transformative few months. In the middle of October I had a mental breakdown. It had nothing to do with being a daydreamer. I’d been trying to struggle on through lockdown-induced burnout, pressures at work and a complicated family situation for far too long. Everyone has their breaking point, and I found mine.Continue reading “The beginning of chapter two”

The High 5 Habit, daydreamer style

I watched a video by Mel Robbins last week about her new book, The High 5 Habit and was inspired to sign up for The High 5 Challenge. So what exactly is the High 5 Habit, and how does it fit into a daydreamer’s lifestyle? The High 5 Habit is simply this: every morning whenContinue reading “The High 5 Habit, daydreamer style”

Learning to make choices and trust your intuition

Navigating the complexities of life involves making decisions. Some decisions can have profound consequences for the way life unfolds, so it’s natural to be afraid of making the wrong choice. We can make choices in a logical, left-brained way, where we carefully list the pros and cons of each option, look at the likely consequences,Continue reading “Learning to make choices and trust your intuition”

What would you be most afraid of losing if you gave up daydreaming?

Maladaptive daydreamers often think that life would be better if they could stop daydreaming. I’m not convinced that it’s possible to stop completely, because our brains are wired to think in this way; we don’t have the same thought patterns as normative daydreamers. But there is another reason why many maladaptive daydreamers find it difficultContinue reading “What would you be most afraid of losing if you gave up daydreaming?”

Micro-daydreaming as a way to manage your emotional state

One of the differences between being an immersive daydreamer and being a maladaptive daydreamer is that if you’re an immersive daydreamer, you can control your daydreaming, rather than letting it control you. You can make your daydreaming work for you so that it becomes an asset that helps you get ahead in your real life.Continue reading “Micro-daydreaming as a way to manage your emotional state”

Three ways maladaptive daydreaming makes you feel bad about yourself

Many maladaptive daydreamers don’t like themselves very much, and when you don’t like or respect yourself, you tend to act in ways that reinforce the idea that you’re a bad person. Although I don’t believe that immersive daydreaming is, in itself, a bad thing, I do think that if your daydreaming is more on theContinue reading “Three ways maladaptive daydreaming makes you feel bad about yourself”

Unravelling “The Secret Life of Walter Mitty” from a daydreamer’s perspective

The Secret Life of Walter Mitty is often referred to as the classic depiction of immersive/maladaptive daydreaming. Originally a short story by James Thurber, it was published in The New Yorker in 1939. It has since been the inspiration for two films of the same name: one in 1947 and the other in 2013. IContinue reading “Unravelling “The Secret Life of Walter Mitty” from a daydreamer’s perspective”