Learning to tolerate discomfort

We daydreamers tend to have difficulty tolerating unwanted feelings and emotions. I think it’s because we never have to. When real life becomes uncomfortable, we can disappear to a better place in an instant; and while we’re there, our real-life problems seem comfortably far away. But the problem with doing this is that we don’tContinue reading “Learning to tolerate discomfort”

Negative daydreams, part 2. Using DBT to create a calm alternative to distressing themes

Last week, I explored some possible reasons why we might daydream about things that upset us. Here, I’m going to look at how a technique from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) can help us break out of a cycle of distressing daydreams. This technique, called “IMPROVE the moment”, is a crisis-management technique. That means it doesn’tContinue reading “Negative daydreams, part 2. Using DBT to create a calm alternative to distressing themes”

Treatment of maladaptive daydreaming disorder

You’re either an immersive daydreamer or you’re not – that’s a function of the way your brain is wired and will never change. But whether or not an immersive daydreamer develops maladaptive daydreaming disorder (MaDD) depends on a whole range of things, many of which are still not fully understood. MaDD is not officially recognizedContinue reading “Treatment of maladaptive daydreaming disorder”

Mindfulness for daydreamers who can’t meditate

I’ve mentioned mindfulness before on this blog. I believe it’s a great tool for maintaining our mental health and for helping to get control over our daydreaming. But if you’ve tried traditional meditations that encourage you to sit still, clear your mind and focus on your breath, you might have found it too difficult andContinue reading “Mindfulness for daydreamers who can’t meditate”

Are daydreamers more prone to burnout and mental exhaustion?

Are daydreamers more prone to burnout and mental exhaustion? That’s a question I’ve been asking myself over the last few weeks. I suspect I’ve been suffering from burnout for the last six months or so, but I’ve been blaming pressure of work, the difficulties of balancing work and family life during the pandemic, uncertainty aboutContinue reading “Are daydreamers more prone to burnout and mental exhaustion?”

Daydreaming and mindfulness as ways to regulate our thoughts

Maladaptive daydreaming often starts as a way to escape an unpleasant reality. But for those immersive daydreamers who are lucky enough never to have become addicted to their daydreams, and for maladaptive daydreamers who struggle to break the addiction even when they no longer need to escape real life, it may be worth looking atContinue reading “Daydreaming and mindfulness as ways to regulate our thoughts”