Negative daydreams, part 2. Using DBT to create a calm alternative to distressing themes

Last week, I explored some possible reasons why we might daydream about things that upset us. Here, I’m going to look at how a technique from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) can help us break out of a cycle of distressing daydreams. This technique, called “IMPROVE the moment”, is a crisis-management technique. That means it doesn’tContinue reading “Negative daydreams, part 2. Using DBT to create a calm alternative to distressing themes”

Three ways my imaginary friends help me in real life

Since I started consciously using my daydreaming to enhance my real life, two of my characters have evolved beyond the plot and become a key part of how I succeed in life. So for the purposes of this post, I’m going to draw a distinction between characters and imaginary friends. My characters (I probably haveContinue reading “Three ways my imaginary friends help me in real life”

How to be as awesome in real life as you are in your daydreams

I’ve written before about why it can be hard for daydreamers to set goals. But despite that, we all have things we want to achieve, whether that’s getting a promotion, buying a bigger house or just finding the courage to join the local choir. And the good news is that you can use the talentsContinue reading “How to be as awesome in real life as you are in your daydreams”

Can you have a healthy relationship with someone who only exists in your head?

A fundamental part of the way we daydream is that we make up characters. They might be completely fictional, brought in when the plot line requires them, or they might be based on someone we know or wish we knew. If these characters stick around for any length of time, it’s likely we’ll become emotionallyContinue reading “Can you have a healthy relationship with someone who only exists in your head?”

The High 5 Habit, daydreamer style

I watched a video by Mel Robbins last week about her new book, The High 5 Habit and was inspired to sign up for The High 5 Challenge. So what exactly is the High 5 Habit, and how does it fit into a daydreamer’s lifestyle? The High 5 Habit is simply this: every morning whenContinue reading “The High 5 Habit, daydreamer style”

Real-life friends and imaginary friends

Life can be a lonely journey if we don’t have at least a few good friends to accompany us along the way. I’ve been lucky enough to make some good friends during each of the major phases of my life – people who tolerate my inconsistency, disorganisation and long periods of silence. I am gratefulContinue reading “Real-life friends and imaginary friends”

Ten reasons I’m grateful for my daydreams

People who are suffering from maladaptive daydreaming disorder (MaDD) understandably become very focussed on the difficulties and problems associated with the condition, and rightly so. MaDD is an addictive behaviour that can negatively impact many areas of a person’s life and make it difficult to maintain a career or relationships. It is understandable, therefore, thatContinue reading “Ten reasons I’m grateful for my daydreams”