Negative daydreams, part 1: why do we daydream about upsetting things?

Although many of us have difficulty limiting the amount of time we spend daydreaming, most of us have at least some control over what we daydream about. Our daydreams are so vivid that they can generate real and intense emotional responses. So why is it that we sometimes daydream upsetting scenes that cause us veryContinue reading “Negative daydreams, part 1: why do we daydream about upsetting things?”

Learning to make choices and trust your intuition

Navigating the complexities of life involves making decisions. Some decisions can have profound consequences for the way life unfolds, so it’s natural to be afraid of making the wrong choice. We can make choices in a logical, left-brained way, where we carefully list the pros and cons of each option, look at the likely consequences,Continue reading “Learning to make choices and trust your intuition”

Daydreaming as an antidote to overthinking – why you shouldn’t worry about not worrying

One of the fascinating things about being an immersive daydreamer is how my daydreaming affects the way I respond to real-world situations. For example, I worry a lot less than most normative daydreamers I know. I think everyone, regardless of their daydreaming style, worries about a whole range of different things, but I think theContinue reading “Daydreaming as an antidote to overthinking – why you shouldn’t worry about not worrying”

Moving forward when the future is uncertain or out of your control

Do you ever think that everything will be OK when you get a new job/your crush notices you/you have time/conditions are perfect, etc? I think we daydreamers do this a lot. In our daydream worlds, we can make everything perfect. We can control everything. So when confronted with a real-life situation that’s outside our control,Continue reading “Moving forward when the future is uncertain or out of your control”